Some people are incapable of emitting warmth. Icy doesn’t begin to describe their persona and the aura around them. They smile with their lips but not with their eyes. They are not worth your thoughts. Don’t kill yourself trying to get them to understand you and don’t ever let them get to you.
People with a complex, an inferior one, who hide in their shells, have very few friends and “fewer” social skills will many times be envious of you if you’re vocal, have good social skills and light up any room you walk into. Such people would not hesitate to kill your spark, turn off your lights, pour water on your fire and cover the smoke with a blanket. Don’t let them. They are envious kill-joys who wish they had your spunk.
There are those whose loyalty will never be to you. Who will always support the other side. Accept that.
There are caucuses that will never accept you. There are gatherings you just cannot fit into because you are different. Misery seeks company and miserable people feed off each others energy. Stay away from them. You speak a different language.
Then there are those who see your flaws and love you regardless, remembering that they have flaws themselves. These are the ones who correct you with love, rejoice with you, mourn with you and wish you well from the bottom of their heart. Appreciate those ones. There a just a few of them (compared to the total number of people you know) so identifying and appreciating them shouldn’t be too hard.
Keep your circle small.
Everyone cannot like you. True but everyone cannot hate you either. Remember that.
Not everyone is interested in your problems. Be wise in sharing and not all doors are meant to be left open. Shut the ones that let in strays. Certain people have no business being ranked as important in your life.
Oh, I almost forgot some people will find it difficult to respect you (as a lady) if you aren’t married or at least in a steady relationship once you are of a “marriageable age”. Apparently marriage brings with it honour that single ladies should not expect.
I tried to upload Kenny Rogers’ Gambler song but it was being long.