Chance Meeting

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I saw her in heels, walking unsteadily towards the gate just as I was heading out of Federal Palace, where I’d gone to change some money. Her light skin, exposed mid riff and slim body made me eager to see her face. There’s something about seeing a face, even if you end up not knowing the person. I decided I’ll ask where she was headed and if it was ok to drop her off if she was going my way. As I slowed down beside her, she turned to look at me.

“Hello, where are you going?”

“Hi” she said with a smile, “oction view”

“Oction view?”

“Yes, on Eko Hotel road”

“Oh! Ocean View. Ok, come in I’ll take you”

She entered the car, saying thank you over and over again with a pretty smile. It was quiet for about 2 minutes. I’m sure she was wondering why another girl was being nice to her and then again, maybe she was just enjoying the music. Meanwhile I’d already reached my conclusion the moment she said Oction View.

I broke the silence by asking what her name was. “Mary”, she replied. I told her my name and she pronounced it wrongly. After about two attempts at correcting her, I let it go.

“You’re Yoruba right?” she asked me

“Yes” I replied “Where are you from?”

“Ibo”, she replied

“Oh ok, what state?”

She told me.

All this while, I was smiling. I thought of my next question. Contemplated within myself whether to ask or not and decided to go ahead.

“What do you do? Do you work?”

“Emm… Not really”

I was still smiling when I asked my next question.

“Do you do runs*?”

She smiled. Actually, she may have giggled but I’m not sure now.

“Yes, I do.” She replied

“Do you save the money you get?” not missing a beat.

“Well… Not really. You know for you to be expensive, you have to dress well”

“So you spend all your money on clothes” (More of a statement than a question)

“Not all but I spend a lot on clothes”

“Do you send money home, to the East”

“Ofcourse”

“Ok that’s good”

I went on to tell her that she was in a business that wouldn’t last forever and that I wasn’t going to judge her but she had to be wise. Prettier, younger girls were going to enter “the market” and business may not do as well as it was doing now.

I asked if she had thought of acquiring any skill say sewing, and she told me she had actually learned hair dressing but had left the salon she was working at cos the woman (I’m guessing the owner) was annoying her. I told her that working for people taught us how to treat our own workers in future. She seemed to agree with me. I also told her that God loved her and she should basically be wise about what she was doing and then I dropped her off. Not before she called me God-sent though. I don’t think she called me that because of all I’d been saying cos she said that just after I agreed to drop her off at the exact side of the road she was going to. Ocean view was just the landmark. She was going somewhere on the other side of the road.

I hope she remembers me one day for good. I hope she decides to quit the business for something more honourable. I did not and still do not feel superior to her in any way. I was happy for the opportunity to talk to her and be a blessing, even if it’s by saving her the few hundreds of naira she would have had to spend on a taxi.

I want to make a positive impact on lives this year and beyond. I want to show love and be compassionate (tautology?). Like Riri sang, “We all want the same thing, we all want love”.

Big kiss

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*Runs: Literal meaning- Prostitution

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54 thoughts on “Chance Meeting

  1. Well done Tizzle. May God grant your heart desires this 2013. You were very straight forward. I pray she ponders over all that you told her.

  2. This was very touching. I do hope indeed all that you said to her resonates in her mind and she moves on from where she is and what she does.

    I have also come to the point where I no longer judge people. I am happy you were a blessing and a help to her, I know she will remember your words and advice one day. I pray for blessings and help to locate you when you need them as well. Have a great 2013

  3. Very nice and courageous Tizzle…I hope your words come back to her sooner rather than later.
    But like UVG said, please be careful and be very sure if you have to do something like that again.

  4. That is very kind of you…the way you asked the question, just like that…gutsy!!!
    I love the last paragraph…i’d like to do the same .

  5. Pastor mrs, this is so cool. It’s a nice way of not preaching at someone . I am sure she will never forget the conversation. You definitely would have made an impact.

  6. that was bravery on your part eh, giving a lift to a total stranger like that.
    But I’m sure you must have been led to do that and she’s not gona forget your kind words in a hurry. happy new year to you dear, blessings and more.

  7. A big hug and a loud MUAH for being willing to make a difference and taking a step in said direction.

    I do believe your “acts” wont fade away cos you just planted a seed, I trust the Holy spirit to send another to water it and I believe she would find a better way of living and making ends meet.

    God bless you , God bless her….and a happy new year to you

  8. How thoughtful of you! I definitely hope she reflects on your words and decides to seek something more honorable (like you said). And thanks for not judging. We should never judge others until we have walked a mile in their shoes.

  9. awwwww…tizzle babay!!!…ges what time i read this post..early midnight or whatever that is…lol..its sha one of the posts i read when i woke up from my evening nap..that was so courageous and loving of you.
    may God give me enough courage ooo..amen
    happy 2013 lovey!!!wishing you the best in this year and a God-filled year.muah!!!muah!!

    • Courageous and loving?? I’m blushing hard here. Lol. I’m glad you enjoyed it.

      Happy new year to you too darling. I wish you the very best of this year as well.

      Xx

  10. *muah* that’s a million kisses for thinking to help & talk. God bless you more. It’s going 2be a good year. I can feel it

    Happy new year sweetie & don’t give up on me yet *covers face*

    • Sweetheart are you ok??? I’m glad you leave comments all over to make us know you are fine but please come back to blog. I miss youuuu!!

      Happy new year dear and no I won’t give up on you :)

  11. That was mighty brave of you Ms.T. Even if for some odd reason, she doesn’t remember the ride and conversation, you have definitely impacted on everyone who’s read this post. This touched me.

    Bless your beautiful soul!

  12. I hope she remembers the convos someday and quit the business for something more honourable.

    Bless your heart sis! Here’s to an amazing 2013. Cheers!

  13. Very nice and thoughtful of you, when it could have been so easy to do the opposite and judge her- a natural human reaction. I pray along with the rest that she has a re-think. God bless you and happy new year girl.

  14. It takes a lot of restraint to not judge someone…it’s a testimony to your own strength of character. I suspect that the lady would have a re-think and it won’t be just because of what you said but the way you said it. Happy New Year!

  15. at first, i thought it was some lesbian stuff.. lol didnt realise it was a true life story… but good on you though.. may God continue to lead you… more people like that need basic advice like that… you won’t always look the way youd o.. what is plan B?

  16. Wow! This was inspiring. God bless you. Most of us have the tendency to want to judge people like that ‘runs-girl’ and feel superior but I loved your approach so much and have learnt from it. Believe me, you have made a much more positive impact on her than you’d ever know!

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